Yep. If you didn’t see it in an earlier post, I’m on TikTok. Be careful. It’s addictive.
I did one other video for a book back in 2011. It was for Circle of Desire, my debut book.
Since then I’ve learned a lot. Click on the link, and it’ll take you to YOUTUBE to watch my newest. WordPress wants me to pay to show it here. I haven’t decided on upgrading here yet.
CLICK HERE TO GO TO THE LINK TO NAKED HEAT’s BOOK VIDEO (Yes, I was shouting in excitement.)
Over the years, I’ve heard clueless people call romance novels porn. The last couple years, with the FIFTY SHADES OF GREY craze, the newest incorrect term is mommy porn. (Geez, if you do, you obviously have never read the real mommy porn. Yuck.)
I can tell you there is a big difference between porn and romance novels, including romantic erotica. From here on out, I’ll just refer to it as erotica to make it simple.
First, let’s talk about romance and erotica. Romance books have a lot in common with numerous genres: literary, mystery, science fiction, action/adventure, etc. In fact, romance books can be all of those things. But the underlying difference is there are two people who become attracted to each other, fall in love or decide they cannot live without the other. And of course, they all have the wonderfully required happily ever after. (I swear the journey to that point is always nail-biting.)
That attraction is what leads the book into becoming a romance. Even if they can never kiss, touch or make love. Those romantic feelings are deep inside the heart and overtake the head. They have nothing to do with how many climaxes they can reach with each other. Romance is how a person treats the other, and in turn, how he/she wants to be a better person for the one they love.
There are many readers who love what is called a Closed Door Romance. They never read what happens behind the bedroom door. I refer to those as pure romance. You will find Inspirational and Sweet romances do that in many genres.
Now, in the romance writing world, erotica is romance that shows love through physical actions along with the emotional ones. There are readers who want the full excitement from beginning to end. They’re like your best friend who comes up after a date and asks, “Tell me the details. Don’t leave anything out.” And as most men know, women rarely leave out anything in the telling in private to their best friend. Or the whole office.
In erotica, the writer will cover every sensory involved in a relationship. The emotions of romance wrapped in taste, sound, smell, sight, and especially touch. I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time buying a new blouse without touching the material. Thus to me, if the heroine hasn’t touched the man in every way possible, how does she know the whole package (pun intended) will suit her for a lifetime?
For porn, the physical act is what leads and ends the story. No character development and none to little emotion. And no – screaming at the end of climax is not the emotion I’m talking about. Though bravo for the character(s).
I can promise you I do know the difference. In my precocious teens to my early thirties, I read many books that could only be called porn. They never left me satisfied (pun intended again), in particular, on an emotional level.
So next time a person calls a romance (no matter how hot) porn, be sure to correct them. Tell them, it’s like calling a history book, a time travel. If you don’t know the difference between those, you might as well keep your mouth shut and read.
As anyone who reads romance knows, there is always a happy ending. The heroes or heroines never die, and they never break up. Sure, they may never marry, but as a reader you know they will be together forever.
But I’ve noticed over the last several years there are other trends in particular of romance.
Back in the seventies through the nineties, the couple would wait until three quarters of the way through the book before having sex. Of course, there were exceptions, but then they often didn’t do it again until toward the end when all misunderstandings were cleared up.
Then in the new millennium, they started having sex in the middle of the book. GASP! I remember I could open some books directly in the middle, and there would be the love scene. It was so funny, not the love scene, usually pretty hot, but that I could find it so easily.
Even now I can read a mainstream (traditionally published) romance, and it will go like this: sexual tension, kissing, petting, almost a home-run but there’s an interruption by an external force or by a realization (She’s a virgin! She’s my brother’s fiancée! He’s the wrong brother! He’s a rake!) and maybe happens more than once. Eeek! So again, it would take until halfway through the book to have sex.
I so hate that. Sure they can’t go like bunnies all the time in a romantic suspense, (otherwise, that would be erotica), they do need to run and worry about something other than the hero being able to get it up. The horror! So with their clothes on, most of the time – I’ve been known for making my heroes go without – they need to have other types of action happening around them and to them.
There are other trends that I’ve seen romance writers do. Heroines are wetting their underwear/thongs a lot. Surprised the girl doesn’t have an infection. Heroes have that bead of moisture on the end of their penises. Not every man has that happen, every time. Then again, I haven’t been with every man.
I know why these trends happen. One writer will read another writer’s book who mentioned a bodily function or reaction the other hadn’t thought of before. So in her next book, she mentions it and then the race is on! Everyone is wetting panties and having beads everywhere.
So writers. If you read it in one, two, or three books, does it make it true or necessary? Please make your book’s a little different. Mix it up. Think about your own experiences and expand.
And if you’re a virgin and writing about women who have a great sex life, kudos to you! You’ve got a great imagination, but you might be surprised that it is a whole lot different than you believe. Actually, usually a whole lot better, though a lot messier. And a woman doesn’t multi-climax every single time.
If you do, you’re unique and I hate you. (HA!)
Of course, it is fiction that we write.
Really? 0~o Huh?
My books are real and have three-dimensional characters. Besides, why is good sex filthy? Well, if you do it in a mud puddle because you couldn’t wait to get somewhere more convenient, you would end up dirty. Good for you!
I’ve never had anyone to ask me those questions. Truthfully, I’m not a scary person but I’m known for being blunt. But even I respect people’s choices in what they write or the job they hold. There are times I’m speechless when people are rude.
If a person had the guts to ask me, I believe I would laugh in their face.
Be sure to type this date into your phone calendar, February 16, 2013, 2 p.m. I will be at the Patton Creek Barnes & Noble in Hoover, AL!
I’m so excited. So far I’ve signed books at my writers’ group luncheons three times and three times at conferences (Silken Sands and RWA Anaheim), but this will be my first time to sign at a book store.
As Naima said, “We’re bringing the heat! Join authors Carla Swafford, Kira Sinclair, Debra Glass, Kerry Freeman and Naima Simone at the Patton Creek Barnes and Noble in Hoover, AL on February 16 at 2 p.m. for great books, laughter and most likely some inappropriate jokes! Come have fun with us!”